Zungenkuß

This week we had a writing exercise. To write about something we felt passionately about.. within any area or topic. Simply anything in life we felt passion for, and to free-write on it. I wanted to share my explanation:

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Something I love... something I feel passionately about. Something everyone does, but not everyone appreciates. Something that doesn’t require money.. or much time.. or intelligence. Some are more skilled at it than others… but I believe that’s mainly because some respect the activity and others don’t. I love it.. respect it.. worship it. It is kissing.

Its such a small thing in life when you really look at it… a kiss… not like running a marathon or traveling to some foreign country. Its just 2 people sharing in a moment.. a moment of communicating something without words. Just your lips and theirs.. a quiet, intimate, lovely experience between 2 people. They usually care for each other to some degree and attraction is definitely involved. Overall, its an activity that’s easily forgotten or unappreciated. Its an activity some may rarely experience, or may not even truly understand.

Kisses come in a wide variety. They range from being the gentlest, tenderest, sweetest experience to one of passionate, violent, fiery desire. It is an expression. An expression of what one feels inside. A way for the emotion inside you to be expressed in a form other than through words. It is an expression of emotion physically.. whether it be an emotion based on love, lust, or anything in between. Whichever the case, it is meant to be a powerful, emotional, intimate experience shared between two people who want to be close to one another.

I believe a kiss begins in the eyes… you may be thinking about it long before it actually happens, but I think it’s the eye contact that actually sparks it. You can see it there… in their eyes. You can even feel it… pulling you in… like there’s a magnet inside you, triggered in that look.. that look that says “come closer”. Your body can’t resist it… it moves closer… as if you were under a spell. Your body needs theirs… your lips need theirs…

Next thing you know, your bodies are touching… arms wrapped around waist or neck… and your faces are so close, nearly touching. Its my favorite part here… the hesitation… right before your lips meet theirs… noses together, breathing them in… feeling their breath merging with yours… there’s no question at this point whether or not your lips will meet.. its just a question of how long you can resist it. You wait, both resisting making that last tiny move when your lips will finally touch.

Someone leans in the rest of the way… many times it is unclear who finally gave in, but it doesn’t matter. Lips meet lips and the feeling is electric… hearts racing, bodies holding tightly to each other.. warmth spreading throughout your body.. excitement.. pleasure.. from your head to your toes.. tingling deep in your stomach. Lips are soft and sweet.. gentle, but eager. A kiss is constantly changing.. rhythmically. Slow, fast.. teasing, demanding.. tender, rough.. up, down, on, off, in, out… like writing a song.. creating a melody, a rhythm, a perfect tune that flows smoothly between the two of you and consumes you together. 

Its more than just a physical experience though… I believe a kiss is like a gateway into a person. You can FEEL them.. TASTE them.. BREATHE them in.. TOUCH them, HOLD them.. LISTEN to the way their body speaks to you. You can fully experience a person through a kiss.. every sense stimulated by them, savoring them. The world around you disappears.. loses its meaning. The only purpose of your existence in that moment is fully embracing the experience of kissing that beautiful, unique, loving individual with you. Even your eyes are closed during a kiss… so that you can be fully blind to the rest of the world and all judgments sight allows, meant to only focus on the other senses.. the feel of your partner, the taste of them, the movement of their body, the feeling of their skin under your finger tips... your mind is blank, fuzzy.. drunk on the pleasure.. the sensuality… the pure bliss filling your heart and body… There is no better way to experience another person than through kissing them. Sharing in the most intimate experience two humans can feel together. Feeling so ALIVE together in that moment. That moment a connection is formed… a connection of hearts.. souls.. minds. They are a PART of you, and you a part of them. It is the ultimate vulnerability… reaching that level of intimacy with your partner. You are letting all guard down.. melting the walls you keep around your heart.. releasing your doubts and inhibitions and simply letting your lips take over. Kissing is about a loss of control… a fantastic, awesome, satisfying, thrilling loss of control.

It is also very important to experience a kiss just for what it is. There are those that “just kiss” with expectations for more. They participate in the “kiss” distracted and over-eager. This is not a kiss at all. One must kiss just for the kiss… nothing more. Embrace the kiss just for what it is… don’t think of what comes after or dwell on what came before. Let all expectations go.. let all thoughts drift away.. all doubts, all questions, disappear. For the entirety of the kiss, forget all else but fully experiencing your partner and his/her lips. You must let go of everything else. Simply BE only for the kiss.. live only for that moment.. only for that kiss… THAT is truly kissing.

Some people love horse-back riding passionately… others may just be obsessed with drawing or shopping… photography or playing ping pong. Let’s just say, we all have our passions and hobbies.. kissing is just one of mine. I see kissing as something beautiful.. meant to be shared and loved and cherished. I kiss only for that reason, to kiss.. without the expectations society has branded on it. A kiss does not need definition or limits… it is free. Some play basketball.. others dance. I.. well, I kiss.

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